Stop Bashing Ayesha Curry!
So apparently Ayesha Curry ruffled the feathers of so many men and women with her discussion on the Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett Smith. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that most married women, especially those with kids can identify with what she said. If you said you can’t, you’re either a liar, or an emotionless alien.
If you are not familiar with what happened, here is a recap of the statement she made that has everyone’s panties in a bunch:
“Something that really bothers me and honestly gives me a little bit of insecurity is the fact that, yeah there are all these women throwing themselves, but me, like the past 10 years, like, I don’t have any of that. Like, I have zero (it sounds weird) but like male attention. And then I began to internalize that, like, is something wrong with me?….”
Now, I personally felt what she said, and my husband is not rich and famous like Steph Curry is. What Ayesha stated was something that many married women with children go through. Motherhood takes a toll on our bodies, also just supporting our men and children can sometimes cause us to lose ourselves. That is one reason I used to spend hours at the gym 6 days a week to lose the baby weight so that I could be “fine” like I was before the husband and kids.
Sometimes the attention from our husbands isn’t enough!
My husband has always been attracted me, but, I used to somehow find my self seeping into those moments of insecurities. My husband was always faced with temptation at work. Women knew he was a good black man that takes good care of his wife and kids, and for some reason, they found that so attractive that they would throw themselves at him! Me on the other hand, no man at worked ever looked my way! And girl, I know I’m a catch! But everyone in the office knew I was married with kids and the men respected that. Shoot, that was enough to kill my confidence.
Ladies, be honest!
Have you ever wanted your husband to be jealous? Or have you ever wanted to prove to your husband that other men actually would love to have you? I know I’ve had those thoughts. I think its quite healthy to give our men that little reminder, right.
All in all, Ayesha’s insecurities are very common in women; and it is so unfair that people are seriously dragging her for it! I can assume that the women that are bashing her haven’t been in a relationship longer than a few months, are single with no kids, or just get a kick in bashing other women. Oh and the men who are dragging her…. Lets just say these men are the stereotypical, egotistical male that think a woman’s life should revolve around her man! I see men literally calling her whores and all other types of degrading names! That is just disgusting!
Girl, it is a positive thing when you have an outlet to express those feelings of insecurity. It was a beautiful thing to see women be open about problems they face being married to such successful men. What’s unhealthy is to keep our emotions bottled up inside leaving them to grow into something that can cause bigger problem in your relationship. As women, we also must be intentional to constantly find ourselves, and remember that we are sexy and fabulous whether others notice or not! It is a process, but it can be done.
My advice to Ayesha:
Girl nothing is wrong with you! If you want to be reminded, go get you a good pair of leggings or some cut off shorts, go in public with your man by your side, then watch him quickly grab hold of you when he catches men looking! Its the best feeling ever! Trust me, I know this all too well! Sometimes you have put “modest mamma” in the back seat. Like Beyonce’ told us, every now and then you gotta go in the closet and pull out that freakum dress!